Ghosting is Not an Acceptable Form of Communication, Even if You Have a Good Reason
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Over the past few months I’ve realized that people just have no freaking clue how to handle and/or resolve conflict. (I am ‘people,’ too.) This episode, I’m going to break down why ghosting should not be your first choice of communication. Plus, I’ll give you a cheat sheet on how to be a better communicator.
Let’s Talk Conflict
In most cases, conflict is really just the aftermath of an unaddressed friction in a relationship usually caused by a breakdown in communication.
In the 2019 version of communication, ghosting has been an acceptable way to communicate when really… the cut and dry of this is.. we are all just us avoiding conflict.
In any conflict, the responsibility owned is 50/50. You should never go into trying to solve conflict not owning half of it.
Our goal with any conflict should be to keep it from turning into trauma!
Do you leave things behind if they don’t serve you? Girl. There is more work to been done in your life besides letting the trash out. You must deal.
Your Communication Cheat Sheet
Actively listen to understand, not just to respond. If you aren’t paying attention to what others are saying there is no way you will be able to respond effectively. Odds are your response will be some sort of defense. Not productive.
When you are communicating with people, remember that they too are human and have feelings. Try and treat them as such. Allow people to express themselves. Be empathetic even if you don’t agree.
Debate is the death of any conversation. You’re not even going to win a prize for being right. This isn’t about having the last say either, it’s about having an adult conversation where you are working together as a team to be heard and understood.
Manage your expectations of how others communicate. If you find yourself going into a conversation with someone who is a certified defensive listener with the expectation that they will listen, you will no doubt leave feeling disappointed and hurt.
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