Do Your Words Hurt or Heal? The Language of Mending Feelings

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I ended a friendship recently because she kept insulting me and adding “lol” at the end. She always claimed it wasn’t her intent. Sis, intent hardly ever matters when you’ve impacted someone in a negative way. The words you use when you express yourself have a huge impact on those around you. In today’s episode, I want to explore some wonderful words to use often and generously with the people you love. These terms usually make others feel great and will go a long way towards mending any broken relationships that require a little fixing.

Loving Language to Start Using with Loved Ones

1. “I’m listening”

We really think we’re good multitaskers but that’s a whole entire lie. The best thing you can do for the people you care about is switch off everything you’re doing and give your full attention to your friend or loved one. It will make them feel like they really matter to you.

2. “I’m sorry”

This is one of the most underrated phrases. Even if you’ve been stubborn in the past and don’t like to apologize, give it a try. I promise it don’t hurt. Even if the other person is slow to accept or respond, it will feel like you’re wiping the slate clean.

3. “I forgive you”

Getting to the point of forgiving someone may take time and a lot of soul searching. When you truly accept apologies and have forgiven, it’s important to express that. It is a humbling and positive experience that will release the pain and help you mend an important relationship.

4. “I appreciate you and what you do.”

I personally love when my family and friends verbally express how well I love them. When you tell others that you appreciate them, they feel noticed. If you want to start healing those less than satisfactory relationships, use this sentence every once in a while. And make it sincere!

5. “I know you can do it”

It’s so important to express your confidence in someone because that then boosts their own confidence in themselves. And girl, who don’t like a little free gas in their tank? Doesn’t it make you feel so good when someone expressed their confidence and belief in you? Extend that to others.

6. “I love you”

Our time on this earth is so fleeting. Cherish the relationships that are close to you. Using caring and supportive words will only build stronger and healthier relationships, so saying “I love you” is probably the most emotionally supportive phrases you can say to someone.

Try some of these today. Share your love and your joy for life by using language that mends and uplifts the souls of those you care about. I promise you that your kindness will be returned with even more happiness.

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